presents
the "Let's Talk About" series
A Note to Parents
Please let me help you! We have raised five children and worked with countless others. Believe me, I know what you are going through. For too long we parents have been made to feel that we alone are responsible for our children's successes or failures. This is an overwhelming and unfair burden. It is time for our children to assume some responsibility for their own lives. They can, if we will show them how and then give them a chance to do it.
This is where the Let's Talk About series comes in. It's purpose is—
to help children to become aware of their behaviour;
to give children an understanding of why they do the things they do;
to help children to see why their behaviour may need to be changed;
to tell children exactly what they can do to change their behaviour.
You probably know by now that your child often responds well to information that comes from an outside source. This series will give both you and your child a fresh new approach to working with tired old problems.
Before you know it, you and your child wiill be going in the same direction more of the time. This is because you will both be focusing on the same issues and functioning from the same premises.
Thank you for letting these materials become a part of your lives.
Vaughan Durston (D&J Founding President)
Let's talk about BEING A BAD SPORT.
The Bible says: "Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep." (Romans 12:15)
Bad sports are not happy unless they win.
When bad sports lose they often
pout,
cry, or
throw a tantrum
Bad sports lie so that they can win.
Bad sports cheat so that they can win.
Bad sports criticize other people so that they can win.
The people who have been criticized often lose because they feel bad about themselves.
Bad sports are not good winners.
When they win, they act as though they are better than the people who have lost.
When bad sports win, they say and do things to make the people who have lost feel bad.
No one likes to be around a bad sport. This is why you should not be one. Instead, you should try to be a good sport.
Good sports realize that no one can win all of the time.
They know that every person wins some of the time and every person loses some of the time.
They also realize that losing does not make you a bad person and winning does not make you a good person.
Good sports lose graciously. Even though they may not like to lose, they congratulate the people who have won.
When good sports lose, they allow the winners to enjoy winning. Good sports make the winners feel as though they did well and deserved to win.
Good sports are good winners. When they win, they say and do things to make the people who have lost feel good.
When good sports win, they say nice things about the people who have lost. They also encourage the people to try again.
It is important to treat other people the way you want to be treated.
If you do not want other people to be bad sports, you should not be a bad sport.
